NICE GIRLS CLUB
Transform from NICE GIRL to Self-Assured Woman
Does This Sound Like You?
You’ve been the people pleaser, peacemaker. The over-thinker. The fixer. The one who says “it’s fine” when it’s not.
You’ve mastered the art of making things easier for everyone else: anticipating needs, softening your truth, staying agreeable and keeping yourself low-maintenance.
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You panic when someone asks what you want to do because you’re used to being the flexible one, the one who says “I’m good with whatever,” even when you’re not.
You rehearse conversations in your head before speaking up only to soften your truth or skip it altogether.
You offer comfort before anyone even asks because you already felt the tension building before anyone else noticed.
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You feel responsible for how others feel and carry the weight of keeping things “good” in your relationships.
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And you’ve started to notice: it’s not giving you the life you want​​​
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For a long time, being the NICE GIRL worked...
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​You're deeply perceptive and emotionally attuned, maybe even highly sensitive, which means you pick up on subtleties in others: what they need, how they feel, what might set them off.
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It helped you avoid rejection, and keep the peace. It made you likable. It kept you safe.
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This attunement is a gift but if it isn't protected and nurtured properly, it will feel like a burden...
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That tightness in your chest after people-pleasing
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The pit in your stomach when you want to speak up
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That moment of panic when someone asks where you want to go for dinner and you default to "whatever you want" because after years of deferring to others, you're unsure what you want and afraid of choosing wrong
What once protected you is now keeping you stuck.​​
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Women who notice the tension in a room and take it on
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Who bend, soften, and self-sacrifice to keep the peace
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Who feel exhausted being the emotionally safe one for everyone else
And you don’t have to keep navigating it by yourself... which is why, after 6 years and working with hundreds of other NICE GIRLS, I've created​​​​​​​​​​
NICE GIRLS CLUB
Women are wired for connection on a biological level. Our nervous systems are built to seek safety through relationships. Women adopt the NICE GIRL role in an attempt to control their environment and seek safety, stability and social cohesion. But when you've spent a lifetime being the NICE GIRL, going with the flow, softening your truth, prioritizing others' comfort over your own, you realize you're living your whole life in a stress response. ​
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In is a space for you if you:
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Feel a wave of guilt after saying no even when it was the right decision
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Panic when asked, “Where should we go for dinner?” because they’ve lost touch with their own preferences
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Second-guess their tone, wording, and body language in everyday conversations
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Shape-shift to be liked and then feel resentful, unseen, or misunderstood
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This program was designed with the female nervous system in mind. Because this isn’t just mindset work. It’s identity reclamation. It’s about breaking cycles of emotional caretaking, enmeshment, and self-abandonment so you can start living a life that actually feels like yours.
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And for maybe the first time, you’ll be in a room where your way of being isn’t something to hide. It’s understood. It’s shared. And it gets to be witnessed without judgment.
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NICE GIRLS CLUB is where therapy tools meet women's circle meet
deep attachment healing and nervous system repair.
Feeling Self-Aware But Stuck?
NICE GIRLS CLUB Is Here To Help
You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Maybe even done years of therapy.
You understand your NICE GIRL patterns. You can name them. You’ve worked on them.
You know what a boundary is. You’ve rehearsed saying no in your head.
You’ve journaled your insights, learned the lingo, and analyzed every relationship.
But when the moment comes, when someone pushes past your limit, or you're asked to say what you actually want, your chest tightens, your thoughts race, and the only thing that comes out is something like:
“It’s okay.”
“Whatever works for you.”
“Don’t worry about me.”
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You’re tired of losing yourself in your NICE GIRL tendencies, aware it’s happening, but unsure how to actually interrupt the loop. You want tools, support, and real practice shifting this.
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​You feel responsible for others' emotions, even when you know you're not. You envy people who say no easily or put themselves first without guilt, fear, or backlash like it’s effortless for them to be clear and direct.
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You want to feel more confident and self-assured so you can stop experiencing high anxiety, worst case scenario thinking, and full whole body tenseness.
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If you've felt stuck in your head but unable to shift in your body... this is for you.
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NICE GIRLS CLUB bridges the gap between insight and embodiment.​​​
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It's Time To Exit Your NICE GIRL Era
You want to learn how to prioritize yourself without feeling guilty, selfish and cold-hearted.
You want to trust your limits, say no, and ask for what you need without punishing yourself and waiting for it to turn into conflict for the next three days (to 3 months).
​You want support that actually shifts your patterns, that addresses the nervous system patterns, attachment strategies, and emotional wiring underneath it all.
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You want to be free from the inner conflict and tension that comes from not being able to figure this all out on your own.​​​
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​If you’ve felt stuck, intellectually aware but unable to shift the pattern, NICE GIRLS CLUB is designed to meet you there.
The Solution: From NICE GIRL to
Self-Assured Woman
The Self-Assured Woman doesn’t need everyone to be okay in order to feel okay. She's not constantly scanning the room and on edge. She's not stuck in her head, ruminating, doubting herself, and criticizing every move she makes. She trusts what she feels. She honors her limits. And she's comfortable being herself and liking who she is.
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This isn’t about being louder, bossier, or suddenly confrontational.
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It’s about no longer abandoning yourself the moment someone else is uncomfortable. It’s about learning to speak your truth without rehearsing it ten times in your head first. It's about asking for clarity instead of spinning out in assumptions. To feel guilt and not let it override your truth.
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It's about learning to stop intellectualize everything and actually have more capacity to be in your body to process things on a deeper level.
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A Self-Assured Woman has:
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A felt sense of self-trust, instead of relying on others to validate your worth
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A grounded confidence in who you are and how you show up
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Relationships that feel reciprocal, nourishing, and emotionally safe
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A nervous system that can tolerate rest, joy, and being seen without spiraling into guilt
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A clearer, more compassionate relationship with yourself where your needs no longer feel negotiable​
The Self-Assured Woman is still caring. Still kind. Still sensitive. She still holds the same core qualities you’ve always had: kind, sensitive, thoughtful, empathetic, emotionally aware. But she’s learned to honour those traits in ways that feel grounded, intentional, and self-respecting. Instead of using them to stay safe or keep the peace, she channels them in a way that nurtures real connection and supports her own well-being too. She's learned to stop waiting for safety to be handed to her—and has learned how to create it from the inside out.
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She’s steady. She’s honest. She’s embodied.
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​That version of you already exists,
and NICE GIRLS CLUB was built to help you meet her.
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NICE GIRL → Self-Assured Woman
Saying yes to keep the peace →
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​​Monitoring everyone else’s emotions →
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​Feeling responsible for other people →
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Overexplaining and tensing up →
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​Shaping yourself to be liked →
Noticing when your stomach tightens, your chest closes, or your jaw clenches and learning to pause and check in with your body before offering a yes that doesn’t feel right
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​Releasing the habit of scanning every room and conversation for micro-reactions, and instead feeling anchored in the safety of your own breath, body, and internal state
Noticing the urge to jump in, fix, soothe, or over-function but feeling more resourced to sit with the discomfort of letting others have their own emotional experience without making it your job
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Recognizing when your voice gets higher, your body contracts, or your words rush to justify—and instead practicing grounded expression with relaxed shoulders and a steady pace
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Letting go of the pressure to manage perception, and softening into who you are without needing to over-perform, over-accommodate, or win approval to feel safe
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I've been supporting NICE GIRLS one-on-one for 6 years and I'm pouring everything I've learned into this 3 month group program
This program guides you through a carefully designed 8-module arc that helps your nervous system and your internal parts understand that it's safe to move out of the NICE GIRL.
You’ll be supported to:
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Recognize the tug-of-war between your needs and your fear of letting others down
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Practice staying with discomfort (like asking for what you want) without shutting down or over-explaining
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Rebuild trust with the parts of you that keep the peace at your expense
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Learn to feel a true yes or no in your body so your choices aren’t driven by guilt, fear, or obligation
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Loosen the grip of overthinking, worst-case spirals, and self-doubt
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Stay present in your body when someone else is disappointed without abandoning yourself
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Hear your own voice beneath the pressure to please
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Release the need to manage others’ emotions to feel safe
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Let go of tying your worth to how much you give or prove
By the end of this journey, you’ll not only recognize your NICE GIRL patterns, you’ll know how to respond differently in the moments that matter most.
This is the shift from knowing better to actually feeling safe enough to do differently.
This is where lasting change begins.
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This is the space your nervous system didn’t know it needed.​​
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The Path To Becoming A Self-Assured Woman
Here’s How The 8-Module Journey Unfolds:
Meet Your Inner NICE GIRL
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Identify your unique NICE GIRL patterns and understand these tendencies as protective strategies, not personal flaws
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Map Your Inner Landscape
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Introduction to Internal Family Systems, and somatic parts work to explore your inner world
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Meet the protective parts (e.g., caretaker, perfectionist, peacemaker) and the younger parts they’re protecting
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Learn about Self energy
Shift from Shame to Compassion
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Learn to respond to your NICE GIRL tendencies with curiosity instead of criticism
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Begin to soften your inner dialogue and re-pattern your relationship you NICE GIRL stress response
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Reclaim Your Nervous System
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Learn the basics of polyvagal theory and how it relates to your NICE GIRL patterns.
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Use somatic tools to regulate, anchor, and create internal safety during moments of stress or relational tension
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Understand the Fawn Response
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Connect your NICE GIRL patterns to attachment and nervous system survival responses
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Learn how appeasement, over-functioning, and staying small are nervous system-based
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Face the Cost of Being Nice
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Get honest about how being “nice” has blocked intimacy, authenticity, and self-esteem
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Orient toward grief, unmet needs, and past disappointments with compassion and care
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Rebuild Self-Trust
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Practice listening for your inner “yes” and “no”
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Reclaim access to your needs, desires, emotions, and preferences without guilt
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Let Yourself Be Seen
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Explore the parts of you that feel unsafe being visible (e.g., anger, desire, sadness, messiness)
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Build the nervous system capacity to show up fully without self-censoring or filtering for approval
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Separate Who You Are From What Others Feel
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Break cycles of emotional enmeshment, co-dependency, and identity fusion
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Learn how to center yourself without guilt or collapse
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Learn How to Set Boundaries Without Shutdown or Over-Explaining
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Practice boundary setting through both somatic and relational tools
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Use scripts, roleplays, and nervous system regulation to build embodied confidence
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Show Up Differently in Relationships
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Identify and shift dynamics like over-functioning, conflict avoidance, and fear of disapproval
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Practice showing up as your Self, not just the version of you that keeps everyone else comfortable
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Meet Your Self-Assured Self
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Envision the version of you who leads with clarity, groundedness, and self-respect
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Create a personalized integration plan to support this version of you beyond the program
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Celebrate your transformation in community
WHEN
Wednesdays at 7PM EST
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FREQUENCY
5 weekly, followed by
3 bi-weekly calls
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DATES
May 14, 21 & 28,
June 4, 11 & 25,
July 9 & 23
DURATION
90 minutes per call (Zoom)
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COST: $600 CAD
8 payments of $75 for each 90 minute call, that's less than HALF Aleta's one-on-one rate.
Get 12 hours of counselling support from Aleta for the cost SAME COST as 4 one-on-one counselling sessions!
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PLUS if you have coverage for Registered Social Worker (RSW) this program can be covered by your benefits!
Meet The Founder
Hi, I’m Aleta!
A mental health therapist (RSW) and the creator of NICE GIRLS CLUB.
Before I ever became a therapist, I was deep in my own NICE GIRL story. I know what it’s like to live a life that looks good on the outside but feels disconnected, anxious, and quietly unfulfilling on the inside.
​​I’ve gotten tattoos I didn’t like, walked out of salons with haircuts I was mortified by, stayed silent when my order was wrong, filled weekends with plans I didn’t want, and stayed delayed breaking up with my university boyfriend because I didn't want to hurt his feelings.
I missed out on a lot of beautiful moments because I was lost in my own head to rumination, guilt, self-criticism, and feeling pre-occupied by the wellbeing of everyone around me.
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And I’ve also lived through what it means to rebuild your life from a place of self-trust and clarity.
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The path here wasn’t linear. It required hard choices and brave shifts. Ones that pulled me out of relationships, communities, jobs, identities, and expectations that no longer aligned.
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And when I was at my lowest, there were women who held me through it. Women who reminded me who I was. That experience changed everything.
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It was messy and uncomfortable—but it gave me the freedom and depth that now shape everything I do.
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I’ve dedicated my continuing education to modalities like Internal Family Systems and somatic therapy. These approaches go beyond mindset and reach into the parts of us that have learned, often through survival, how to shrink ourselves in the name of connection.
I believe we’re living through a pivotal moment. Where women are being called to stop playing small. To release the roles, conditioning, and emotional responsibility that have kept us quiet, self-sacrificing and stuck.
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I created NICE GIRLS CLUB because emotionally attuned, thoughtful women deserve more than praise for being agreeable. They deserve spaces that support their expansion. That help their bodies soften, their voices rise, and their truth land without apology.
This is that space. An invitation to return to yourself—and discover that who you are underneath the Nice Girl is more powerful, more grounded, and more than enough.
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I’m so glad you’re here.
Curious to know more about me?
FAQ
1. Can I use my insurance coverage for this program? Likely! Aleta is a Registered Social Worker (RSW, BSW), and some health benefit plans cover services offered by RSWs. It’s up to each participant to check with their provider directly. While this is not one-on-one therapy, it may fall within your plan’s coverage for mental health or group support.
2. How does payment work? When you register, you’ll add your credit card on file. Instead of paying upfront, you’ll be charged $75 after each session (8 payments total) spaced over the 3 months of the program. IF YOU HAVE COVERAGE, A RECEIPT WILL BE EMAILED YOU CAN SUBMIT FOR REINBURSEMENT.
3. Are refunds available? Because of the live, immersive nature of this program and the limited number of spots available, there are no refunds. Please purchase mindfully and only commit if you feel truly ready.
4. What if I’m already working with Aleta one-on-one? If you're currently in therapy with Aleta, this program will beautifully complement and deepen that work. While your one-on-one sessions are tailored to your individual story, NICE GIRLS CLUB offers a condensed, immersive group experience that dives specifically into the NICE GIRL patterns. Many of the concepts will feel familiar, but you’ll experience them in a new way through this group setting.
5. What if I can't attend every call live? Participation to every call is strong encouraged. If you cannot attend the call you can still have access to the material discussed in the call and any additional resources or practices.
6. Is this like therapy? While this is a therapeutic space led by a registered therapist, it is not replace one-on-one therapy or a space for someone actively working through trauma that would require a more personalized approach. This is a group counselling, experiential group rooted in nervous system and attachment-informed care.
7. Will there be a community space? Yes, there will be a private online space (likely What's App) to connect with other participants between calls and share reflections.
8. I've never attended a group and am kind of nervous about what that will be like? Very understandable, entering into a new space can bring up uncertainty and worry. Aleta has kept this in mind with how she's structured the group calls to create as much comfort and ease nurture the new connections. There's no requirement to share, and you have autonomy to choose what and when you contribute.
9. What's the group size? It's going to be kept intimate, maximum of 8 women.
10. Aleta's not my therapist but I have my own therapy, can I still attend? Yes absolutely! Whether you're in therapy with Aleta or your own therapist, this group program can be a great addition to the work you're already doing.